Show Notes

Mo Connolly lives, loves and works in Detroit.

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TRANSCRIPT:

MO: My best advice is there's never a time where we need to make an unsolicited comment about someone else's body. So maybe someone has gained weight. Maybe someone has lost weight, you know, maybe somebody is pregnant, whatever it may be, but to just pop in there with your assessment of how their body looks is never necessary, because we don't know what they're going through. We don't know their history. We don't know their trauma. We don't know what their relationship is with their body. There's a lot there. There's no need to just slide in with a, Hey, did you lose weight? You look awesome. Because again, we don't know anything about what's going on with that person. Um, so the unsolicited body comments, we don't need 'em and yeah, in general, we can say, Hey, you look really nice. Um, but to get to the level of someone's weight or how their butt looks or how their chest looks or whatever it may be, we just don't have to do

ZAK: Wouldn't be prudent.

MO: Wouldn't be prudent.

ZAK: Does that include, like, say your husband complementing your body? Does it fall into the same camp?

MO: I say, yes. I think as you know, for an intimate partner is that type of thing...you can always say, like, I'm attracted to you. You turn me on. I'm so lucky to be with you, but you never need to say like, your ass looks great or, you know, you gaining weight has made your boobs bigger. And I love that. And because commenting on someone else's body or their body parts is not acknowledging their full humanity and it's objectifying. So again, you can say that, you know, your partner, you turn me on. I, you know, I'm still attracted to you, but going to their body and talking about it in that way is not needed.

ZAK: Okay. Who are you?

MO: My name is Moe Connolly. I'm a mom and an intimate partner in Detroit, Michigan.

ZAK: So here's an exercise that might help with today's advice. Next time you're thinking about commenting on some random strangers' body, play Mo's words back in your head on loop. You've been listening to The Best Advice Show. If there's someone in your life who you think should hear today's episode. I would love for you to send it to them. Thanks in advance for doing that.

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